November 19

Single at Christmas? A practical guide

Are you single this Christmas? Here’s your guide for enjoying Christmas as a single woman and changing the usual narrative.

Christmas is staring us all in the face.

In my house, the tree is up (Yes, I know we are only over halfway through November). The kids are happy to see the lights on the tree, and I listen to Christmas music.

From the outside looking in, everything looks great but let me share a little secret with you. We are no different from you in that we have challenges, hopes and dreams like you.

As we have navigated the highs and lows, there have been tears, prayers, questions, thanksgiving and more.

You may have experienced the same over the past year(s). But in the midst of all that is happening, we keep putting one foot in front of the other.

So, I first want to celebrate you for not quitting on life. Well done

I know it may not have been an easy ride for you but you are still here so well done.

Pat yourself on the back for still standing and facing each day that comes to you.

Coming to the end of the year and Christmas, you may be in reflection or comparison mode.

“What did I say I would do and what have I achieved?”

It’s a common thought that runs through our minds, even if we don’t say it out loud.

With this thought comes reality; you are still single and that, my friend, can suck the joy out of the holidays.

If you have started feeling a bit off about your single status, here are a few things I want you to know:

  • God is with you, even through this waiting season. He wants you convinced of this.
  • God’s nature is love and goodness. He is good ALL the time, not only when things are good.
  • Having a vision for your life makes a world of difference. It may not be as clear as you would like but you must have a level of clarity on where your life is going.
  • You have the blessing of relationships. There are people who love you and want to hold your hand through this season.

I wish I had a lot of time to unpack each point. That would be a whole 2-hour webinar, lol!

If you are going through a long waiting season, I understand but what I have shared is important for you to enjoy this season.​

Not only do I understand, I want to encourage you and let you know that you can make it through.

You can and will make it through this season.

Trust God; He has got you covered. 

Your practical holiday guide 

The Christmas holidays can be a great time if you have a plan. 

In this guide, you will get a practical plan to cover 5 key areas of your life over the holidays.

They are spiritual, personal, mental, relational and physical. 


Keep growing your relationship with God. The Christmas holidays can get busy but don’t let your relationship with God slide. He wants to help you through this season.

So, pray, read your Bible, make your declarations and keep listening to edifying messages. 

Spend some time studying the Word of God, especially in the areas where you want to grow. 


Invest in some alone time so that you can recharge if you are tired. Nothing like a good meal and rest to refresh you.

Not only that, use the quiet time to get back in touch with yourself. Spend time preparing your heart and life for the coming year. 

That way, you’ll hit the ground running in the new year. 

Ask the Holy Spirit to show you what your new year is meant to look like. 

Ask for guidance, direction and the goals you should set for yourself. Before you jump on the bandwagon of vision board parties, have a personal vision retreat by yourself. 

Don’t be influenced by outside influences. 

Lean into the unique path that God has chosen for you. 


Turn off social media if you need to. Social media is going to be awash with pictures and videos of many couples in their matching pyjamas. 

If that will trigger you, it’s only wise to remove the trigger. Your mental health and feelings will thank you for taking such a step. 

Take a social media break and if you must be there, set a time limit for how long you will be on it. 


Spend some time with the people that matter to you, even if it is only via Zoom or a phone call.

Meeting up in person is always a good idea and good for the soul. 

Plan 1 or 2 meet-ups with family and friends. Don’t bail on them or yourself. 


Pick up something you’ve wanted to do all year and do it. For me, that has been reading a bit more.

Or spend some time volunteering and helping those in need. It is the season for giving after all. 

Bonus: Financial 

Work on your finances and set yourself up for the year ahead. In fact, before the new year, plan where your money will go over the holidays and what you will keep for looooonnnnngggg January. 

Most importantly, stay hopeful and grateful.

As you prepare for the new year, set yourself up for your future and marriage. Get your copy of my book, Waiting Gracefully HERE.


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